I can only hope that my children will have better self-esteem and won’t get caught in a relationship like this!Kim, Writing and sharing what you know, helps and creates change.He is trying to suck me back into the relationship. Just take it day by day until you feel yourself getting your strength back.I pray for strength and courage everyday & every moment. If you haven’t gone No Contact, it would help if you block him because that will cut down on the confusion you might be feeling.I am sorry that the dreams for the future we shared are gone.I mourn his loss, but I am glad he is free of the past and at rest. Phyllis Thank you for this very helpful and important information. Its very hard to see friends with these types of people and its always good to be aware yourself In high school I definitely dated a guy like this who was emotional abusive and horrible to me. The thing that really concerns me is that this article was originally written in 2003, so Narcissists have been weaving in and out of society undetected for a very long time.
I am glad I provided peace, comfort, and love to him (his words) and he often expressed his gratitude.It’s not an instant thing – the abuse starts slowly, over time, and before you know it, well, you’re in very deep. Kim, every time I receive your post, it is so apt for what I am experiencing at that very moment.I have separated from him 6 months ago and now in the process of a divorce. It helps if you can somehow remind yourself that this pain won’t last forever, if you can carry through with the divorce and not let him back into your life.Thank you for the encouraging words 🙂 It’s nice to hear that I’m creating change from time to time! I have been doing a lot of online research about domestic abuse and narcissists, and it helps to have that knowledge.I wanted to clarify that my partner was the victim of both of the prior relationships he had been in. The more I read and learn, I do not think he was a narcissist.Wishing you continued courage and strength…we’re rooting for you! Maybe Narcissists have been around for much longer, but society as a whole is just starting to share experiences related to this kind of abuse.