Even if you're doing well, the insights you'll gain from this much-needed book can help you fine-tune or even completely readjust important areas of your dating life. For ten years the initial offering has been a Christian best-seller.Cloud and Townsend argue that knowing the boundaries of your own self, “where my yard begins and ends” (p.29), leads both to personal freedom and an appropriate sense of responsibility.
It is true that there are genuine victims in our world.“Nowhere are we commanded to have ‘other-control,’ although we spend a lot of time trying to get it! Cloud and Townsend’s position is clear: “we are responsible ourselves.” They make much of Galatians 6:2, 5. We are expected to deal with our own feelings, attitudes, and behaviours, as well as the responsibilities God has given to each of us, even though it takes effort (p.These verses instruct us “to carry each other’s burdens” (v. 31) Thus, having clear boundaries does not preclude Christian love.They define .” The ‘boundaryless’ person (the Sherrie of chapter one) fails to appreciate these boundaries.Too often they try to take responsibility for the behaviour of others, or allow others’ behaviour to control their actions.Cloud and Townsend have done us a great service in affirming this truth.