“In turn, doing new things increases dopamine in the brain, triggering a desire to spend more time together and assisting in lighting your sexual fire.”An even bigger bedroom bonus?
A longer span of time before he’s reaching for the Viagra.
In his study of 104 couples, he asked one partner to predict how the other would respond to questions on everything from the use of cash to biggest life regret.
Some of the spouses simply guessed (e.g.,"Ernie would never use a credit card! Others had to write about a typical day in their partner's life, and then "put themselves in his or her shoes" before predicting (e.g., "Ernie works so hard all day at the bank, and he resents even paying five dollars for lunch; he would never use a credit card.") The result: Those who tried to imagine the other's perspective were less accurate than those who winged it—confirming Epley's real-life experience of giving his dolphin-loving wife a day of caring for the animals at the aquarium, not realizing that, since she'd just had a baby, she would not enjoy the binding, full-body wetsuit.
Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by an indie rock concert the next.
Younger men are as adventurous outside of the bedroom as they are inside it, and they’ll bring out a more youthful, vibrant side of you, says Lori Bizzoco, founder and executive editor of Cupids “He will see you as smarter and worldlier, so he’ll want to please you, not just physically but emotionally and intellectually,” she says.
“The younger and less experienced he is, the more open he’ll be in his relationship with you.”Be forewarned, though: Less baggage can also mean a lack of relationship skills, such as communicating and resolving problems and conflicts, says Melanie Matcek, a matchmaker and relationship coach in San Antonio, TX.Which, as we know from our own slipups, is the first step to apologizing—and figuring out how to avoid the inadvisable act next time. Both of you could sit there expressing opinions all night.You two need to decide on something big together: Should you buy that house? Or you could borrow a technique suggested by Chris Ertel and Lisa Kay Solomon, who consult with corporations on how to plan strategic meetings.And then you learn that the same year you graduated college, he was wrapping up his freshman year—of high school.Dating someone younger—whether you’re two or three years his senior or are talking cougar territory—certainly can work (look at Eva Longoria and her 4-years younger beau), but being an “older woman” in a relationship does tend to come with certain perks and downfalls.“Being older, you’re more successful and established, while he’s still climbing the corporate ladder or even getting a career going,” she says.