For those of you who are part of the members community here and have already made it through the Lust Course, you’ll be very familiar with many of these concepts that I’m going to go over in this article. Different women want different things from men at different times.If that’s the case, I hope I can at the very least shed some light on new ideas or perspectives for you. Sometimes a woman wants a sweetheart that just wants to hang out and cuddle.Like John Travolta’s character Danny Zuko in Grease, the men of today (and yesteryear) all labour through the trials of dating under the misguided notion that “playing it cool” gets the girl. Well, if the dating game today is anything to go by, then apparently we do. Following “The Rules” that state that you cannot seem too interested in a guy is probably the wrong way to go about getting your man. Do we really think that “treat ’em mean to keep ’em keen” is really all it’s cracked up to be?If you’ve tried to arrange a date, but it has been cancelled, the person playing hard to get will have a genuine reason for not showing up.They will also probably have another time and date in mind so you two can get together.
The problem with going down this path is that in all likelihood your love interest will be pulling the same stunt.
One thing that being a member of the crew here at The Social Man has showed me, or reaffirmed if you will, is that interpersonal relationships depend on a combination of understanding oneself, having the strength to recondition yourself to a better you, and understanding the psychology behind your partner’s thoughts and actions.
If you want to find, and hold onto, the right woman, you’re going to need to understand how the two of you fit into the bigger picture that is a loving and affectionate relationship.
The uninterested person, if they have agreed to a date will not have a clear idea of when you can meet again in the future.
It’s actually possible that they will just stand you up and leave you waiting alone at the restaurant.