You need to step back and identify the priorities -- your priorities -- in a relationship with a married man. Ensuring you have a life distinct from his that is your safe haven can make being the other woman, if not a secure, permanent position, at least one that is a bit more tolerable.
There is a special chemistry to desire, which becomes even more complex when passion becomes love. He's a single dad, I'm not good with kids, so I was really hesitant about anything serious. Also, please die in a fire at your earliest convenience. It’s that I can’t stand lying awake, knowing I’ve made you hate me. Who knows how many broken homes I might have left in my wake? You lied to me, because it’s unlikely I would have fucked you had I known you were already spoken for. The other woman isn’t always some cold-hearted bitch out to steal someone’s man.
In fact there usually isn't after the affair is over. Even though he has a deep feeling of love for you, he is able to process it in an unemotional way.
He's not a bad guy, he may be a wonderfully kind person, but he is also a practical one.
Simply because he talks in a negative way about his marriage doesn't mean that his obligations to his wife are any less important to him. No matter how much you may want to walk in the sunshine with him and have him openly acknowledge his love for you, it won't happen. Planning to be together becomes a fascinating game and is thrilling to say the least.
Whether or not they have children is a moot point; he will always feel as if he has to be a husband to her and take care of the marriage, whether he truly loves her or not. While he is more than willing to be your lover and to bring you gifts, he is not about to have you meet his friends and risk having his family find out about you. No matter how nice a guy he is, you are a temporary diversion for him. Stealing hours from work or home to have sex is exciting, and you may mistake his libido-driven passion for undying love. The game soon becomes a chore for him, and romantic interludes are just one more thing he "has to do." 4. Less than 5 percent of men leave their wives for the woman with whom they are having an affair.