When people think of college, parties, schoolwork and romance come to mind.
When I graduated from high school, I felt like I was finally in a place where I was ready to dedicate the time and commitment necessary to being in a relationship. After a few months into my first year of college, I started dating someone who I thought could really make me happy. I finally felt like I had met someone who actually understood me and cared for me. It turns out he was just like every guy I've met thus far in college: selfish and self-absorbed.
However, I'm optimistic that there are nice guys in college who do want relationships. College is nowhere near as structured and organized as high school is.
The day doesn't start and end at the same time for everybody.
You’ll go grocery shopping together and inevitably decide that fuck it, you’re going to get the Oreos anyway even though you’ve said you weren’t five times. They’ll have work, and sometimes their work schedule won’t fit in with your class schedule which limits your time together.Instead, people's days begin when their first classes are scheduled, and they end after their last classes, meetings or practice.There's so much you can get involved in while you're in college.So if we were seeing other people, it would just be “whatever.” I wanted to simultaneously pull my hair out and scream.Everyone says not to overgeneralize people, but the guys I've met in college have only wanted hookups.They wanted to hook up with as many girls as possible, and didn't care about who they were hurting along the way. One failed relationship and many crushes later, I came to the realization that all of the guys I've ever been interested in have taught me important lessons about life and relationships.