This is because the online dating/matching (as provided by the commercial websites) lacks the basic ingredients for developing real love.
The most evident problem involves its use of several categories (plus a few photos) for the daters to predict and decide the effectiveness and success of their further interactions with one another.
This type of artificial "contact" contradicts the process of meaningful interpersonal interactions (to be explained), which generates love and attraction.
The problems with online dating It is clear that online dating has at least two problems.
All categories are just the maps or substitutes of social reality, not the reality itself.
When people use categories to predict an interaction (but not pay attention to the other's real communications, they will produce two outcomes: a), avoiding love from right individuals, and, b) approaching the wrong person(s).
My problem is the majority of the people I know hanging around on dating sites are being ran through ie: experimenting with god knows who after being on so many dates.
I had a friend who went through numerous dates in a year...