(Mostly it was just nice to get acquainted with myself at such a direct angle! Before I had sex with someone with genital herpes, I needed to accept the very real possibility that I would become infected — and I needed to decide that it would be okay.
We don’t make a big deal about cold sores, so why is the same type of sore such a big deal once it hits below the belt?
I took immune-boosting supplements (even though research on supplements to prevent herpes is inconclusive) and made sure he was taking his herpes medication, which decreases chances of transmission as well as his frequency of outbreaks — and then we just kind of went about our sex lives without fretting too much. We decided to be mostly monogamous, agreeing that when we were in the same city, we would only see each other. Should I then disclose to my new partners that I have genital herpes?
I wasn’t prepared when he suddenly dropped a bomb on me: He had genital herpes.Ashley Manta facetiously refers to it as “dropping the H-bomb” — telling new partners that she has herpes.She’s used to it now, but when she was first diagnosed nine years ago, it didn't feel so normal.It would be like telling everyone that I have the flu, but hadn’t shown any symptoms, so it was only a possibility.Instead, I got out ye olde hand mirror every few days and checked out my genital area for any abnormalities or bumps.After brushing up on my herpes facts, I felt incredibly vulnerable.