It’s not working and is only creating tension between you.
Once your husband comes clean about his dirty habit, appreciate his honesty.
From the ages of 12 to 16, I baby-sat for a little boy three to four days a week until he started school.
I had a lot of pent-up anger from my own childhood, and something about having control over this little boy was a power trip to me.
None of the parents involved seem to have been paying enough attention to their children.
He said that if you respond, he will follow your advice, and I will, too. Dear No, I was wondering after your description of your wonderful husband what the “but” would be, and it turns out to be a butt, so I understand why you’re fuming.I would also do things to shame him like make him stand in a corner with no clothes on.I moved away a couple of years after I stopped baby-sitting for him.I played with him and taught him to read, but I also took advantage of the fact that his parents approved of spanking.I went overboard and would spank him for things that were not punishable, beside the fact that I shouldn’t have been doing that in the first place. I feel disgusting admitting this but I believe I enjoyed it.At a shower his co-workers threw for us, I heard someone ask him if he was quitting smoking in anticipation of the baby’s arrival.